Look somewhere else

I'm officially sick and tired of people who blame all their problems on anything but the right thing: themselves!

This is mostly true when it comes to physical appearance. Obviously the media doesn't help at all plastering extremely photoshopped pictures of celebrities all over the newsstands, Internet, and TVs. The celebrities themselves are victims (albeit, really rich ones) who live under the pressure of always being a size zero. I, of course, speak of the female celebrities, but it also applies to some of the male ones too. Once they start looking like a normal person, they are called fat and caught in unflattering snapshots with captions like: "breakup leads to comfort food" or something equally ridiculous.

Not that an average person needs all that pressure on top of what human nature imposes already: blaming all your problems on anything but the real thing!

I notice this especially in women, who constantly fail to be in long term relationships, or relationships altogether. They blame it on something physical: too fat, big nose, big ears, crooked teeth, etc. And this is exactly what plastic surgeons want: people who think they can fix their problems by pulling skin here, raising an eyebrow there, or shaving off a nose bone here and there. These women need "plastic" surgery on their inside, on the invisible, on the real problem: the issues they have!

Look around you. There are plenty of people in relationships in spite of such alleged physical shortcomings. The problem is not your physical appearance, the problem is you. You have to change something inside to change the way your life is going. It's that simple, and it doesn't require anesthesia, and it's free.

I'll give you an example. I know these two sisters. One is tall and on the large side with rolls and everything. Her sister on the other hand is petite and slender, and beautiful. You look at them, and you can't believe they're really sisters. The bigger one looks almost like a lumberjack compared to the petite one. At one point, the petite one had a slightly large nose, she paid a lot of money to get it fixed, and she now looks perfect - just simply beautiful. But here's the thing, she did that thinking that was going to fix her relationship problems, only to still be always single. Her sister on the other hand, is in a very happy relationship, and has always been in wonderful relationships with amazing guys, who are nice, good-looking, and hard-working. You see, guys may need the good looks for the first impression, but once they talk to you and find nothing to interest them, they'll walk away, regardless of what you look like. So save yourself some money, and go work on your attitude!

You see, the problem is, the beautiful sister from the story above, still deep inside realized that it's her attitude that keeps the guys away, but it cost her thousands of dollars, when she could've just done what I'm saying and saved herself some money, if she would've thought a little harder.

It's really easy for us to blame our problems on other people or other things, but in reality, we are just afraid to take a hold of our lives and help ourselves to fix our own problems. Imagine how much bigger the disappointment is if you go as far as paying someone to change your physical appearance, only to discover that the source of your problems is not that extra bag of fat that you just got sucked out of your thighs. Which by the way, you should lose, the right way, by working out, and in a way, working out is taking a hold of your life and helping yourself!

That's all the wisdom I have today!