Just FABULOUS!

I don't really have a routine anymore, but work is so brain numbing that by the time I get home, I am so tired that all I can do is sit and stare at the television. Somehow I end up watching a rerun of Sex and the City. I always laugh when they say something naughty and a little gross and too sexual. It reminds me of how much my dad hates the show. If the show comes on while I'm visiting my parents, my dad says: "this is disgusting, I hate this show, especially Samantha." Which I think is amusing, because even though he hates it, he obviously has paid enough attention to know the characters' names. Funny, ain't it?

Well, aside from my dad's clear attentiveness to things he hates, I was thinking last night after watching the episode where the girls go to LA and have everything bad to say about it, especially compared to NYC. Not that I disagree, because I hate LA, but I really can't imagine myself in NYC. And I wondered how come they didn't make a show about real people living in Chicago. It's more real. People here are more real than either coasts I think. People live here, because they want to live here and enjoy their lives. I don't think people come to live here expecting the craziness of NYC or the fake glamour of LA. People come here, they have fun, and stay here and raise families. But then I thought, why would people want to watch that. I'm sure most people our age, or single women of all ages have nice ordinary lives, even in NYC and LA, albeit less than Chicago, I bet, but nevertheless, they're still there. But really, who wants to watch that? The closest thing to that is Friends. While it's one of my all time favorite shows, it's also far from realistic.

But at the end of the day, do we want to sit down and watch our lives? Would we want to watch people who go to work and come back and sit in torn t-shirts on our couches watching TV while perfectly made-up? That's no fun! We want to watch people who are always glamorously dressed and go out to glamorous places, and buy $500 pair of Manolo Blahnik's. We want people who seem to be always having casual sex, because in reality we only come across those people infrequently, and we never really befriend them, or we call them skanky hoes behind their backs, instead of discussing with them the anatomy of the latest guy they or we screwed.

While it's fun watching chain smoking newspaper column writer who somehow can afford a posh pad in Manhatten and new outfits with Italian designer names (yes, that can happen in real life), I think at the end of the day, none of us can handle a life that would make for an interesting story line worthy of following by millions of viewers. If I had the choice, I would still choose my boring life with Old Navy flip flops and long work hours, though I could use less hours at work and more drinking wine with my cute neighbor! Hey, I'm just sayin' :)

More thoughts about life

I lead my life a certain way, and while I don't think that others should lead their lives the way I do mine, I do have opinions about the way people do certain things. If you don't have opinions about other people and their doings, I truly believe there is something wrong with you. Minding your own business means not telling people what they don't ask you to hear. But when people ask, give it to them. Otherwise, feel free to form your own opinion. Well, here are a few of mine about friendships and marriage.

I personally think it's better to have fewer good friends, than a lot of acquaintances. I hate being taken for granted by my friends. I hate when someone makes me feel like they're tossing me aside while they work on their other friendships. I take friendship seriously and want my friends to do the same. It's not a "friend of the week" thing. It shouldn't be, because then it's not friendship, it's just people trying to mark the wall and comparing numbers of people they know. That don't impress me much!

Now let me turn to marriage. I take marriage very seriously, and that's why I'm not married. That's right. I am not married because I think marriage is a serious thing. I don't think it's something that I do to have a big nice party. I don't think it's something that will make me better than anyone else. I think marriage is a very serious commitment and I will not get married until I find the person that deserves to have me give up a few things to be his wife, and hopefully he'd feel the same way about me. I don't need a husband to have kids, I don't need one to give me shelter, or buy me stuff, or be my date when I go to events. I want a friend and a companion and someone I can always count on, in good and bad. That being said, I also want to stay my own person when I'm married and not let the marriage or the husband define who I am. I want to be part of a duo, but maintain some independence.

SOME independence. I can't stand people who are on both ends of the spectrum. There are ones who cannot do anything without their husbands, and I don't want to be around those people. It's OK to be apart for a little bit. That being said, there's also something to be said about people who lead completely independent lives. WHY? Why did you get married? I don't think it's a good quality to ALWAYS make different plans. You're married, show me how that's different from when you were single. Going out and always getting drunk apart, and often crashing drunk at someone else's home, apart, is not something I admire or seek in a marriage. And I can't help it that I don't have respect for those who do!

In other news, my hot ref friend was not there today. I asked the other ref about him, and he told me that he was out of town for work. STUPID WORK!

Head-ACHE!

I have looked at so many condo listings in the past 5 days that my head is about to explode. I have so many requirements, so many pet-peeves, so many NO-NOs, so many picky needs that I am not only going to drive my realtor nuts, but I'm going to drive any and everyone who's involved in this thing NUTS. Finally, I came up with a list of 6 places I want to look at.

I'm hoping to fall in love with the first place I see, and I put in an offer, and it gets accepted, and everything goes smoothly and I just buy that place without having to look anywhere else. I know how I am. The more places I look at, the more I will question everything and anything. I have such a fear of committment that it does not only apply to relationships, but it is so strong that it goes beyond that to real estate. I am so scared of finding a place and loving it and taking it and BEING STUCK WITH IT. Just like a lousy boyfriend. But you can't break up with a condo, can you? At least not for two years if you don't want to pay penalty tax. Can you imagine having tax penalties to breaking up with people? Maybe then people would put in more thought into who they go out with and not date total and complete losers!

So, condo, yeah, let's see where I am in a week. That is if my head doesn't explode!