Classy people at their finest

Am I overreacting? What do you think about the way I'm handling this?

When I was in college, MP and I were good friends with this girl, who comes from a family that is best characterized as FANATIC Catholic Republicans. Right there you're thinking: "but how can YOU be friends with THEM?" Well, I don't know, but somehow it worked out, and we were friends.

MP and I always noticed that this family has very strange behavior, at least in the way they deal with everyday life. For example, they never ever discussed money, no matter what. They would never tell you what they're paying for rent or how much they paid for a roll of toilet paper or a head of lettuce, because THEY JUST DID NOT DISCUSS MONEY. This was one of MANY odd things about them. So we'll call them the Weirdos.

In college, MP and I were friends with Oldest Weirdo. By friends I mean she selectively hung out with us and selectively invited us to events or parties. But we didn't care, we just went with the flow. Then Middle Weirdo started college and we became better friends with her. I particularly became close friends with her and we hung out all the time and she became one of my closest friends, second to MP, of course. Middle wasn't as weird as Oldest, but still had that "quality." Later, we met Youngest Weirdo, and she was actually a lot more normal.

When Oldest graduated before us from college, she left to work in a nearby big city, and we didn't see her as much anymore, but we still visited her a few times, and tried to keep in touch. Then we completely lost touch with her, and we only got her news through Middle. Oldest moved around and changed jobs, but never bothered to give us her new addresses or emails.

Today, many years later, she's getting married. I ran into her and her fiance, who is a very strange guy, at a sporting event last year and she told me that she was getting married and that I should keep the day free. So I did, and I thought that most likely I wasn't going to be invited. However, when I came back from my trip a couple of days ago, I saw an invitation to her wedding in my stack of mail. I had a problem though, on the envelope it said:

Ms. Kula Lastname + Guest.

I swear it did. I can't even make this up if I wanted to. OK, let's say she's so desperate for space that she can only invite me alone, since I'm not in a committed relationship with anyone. Not that she would know, since she doesn't even keep in touch with me anymore. But if she really wants to invite me alone AND she made the mistake of writing the word "Guest" at first, then maybe she could've used a new envelope and just written my name. OR, she could've kept the word "Guest" and thought: "hey, if she has someone special in her life, she can bring them, if she doesn't, then she can come alone if she wants to." However, none of the options include writing out my name PLUS "Guest" then scratching out the word "Guest." That is of course if you're not a classless hick who does not know a thing about etiquette.

So, initially, I thought that I would go to the wedding alone. Then I thought that this was quite insulting, so: "hell no, I won't go to the wedding." But earlier today, I called MP to see if she was invited to the wedding, and since she's married, of course she gets to bring a guest. After talking to MP, and since we help each other make these kinds of decisions, I decided that I will respond to the invitation and where it has space for the name of the person attending I will indicate that there will be "2" people and write "Ms. Kula Lastname + Guest." Just like that, without even indicating my Guest's name, yet.

I mean, people are free to invite how many ever people they want to their weddings, but considering the number of people who don't come, what difference would ONE person make? And even if you know your friend is single, shouldn't you leave that decision as to whether she will bring someone to the wedding or not to her? When you're 28, I think there are certain things that should not take too much thought to be done the right way, like how to address invitations. But even if you do really want to invite the person alone, and you made a mistake, shouldn't you at least use a new envelope instead of what I received?

The list of questions I have about this situation is endless, but even for the Weirdo family, this was way beyond anything I thought they would ever do. I was shocked! My jaw dropped, and I could not believe that someone who puts on such an act of being a mature adult, would do something like that. Above all, I think I am handling the situation the best way possible, because this will hopefully show her that what she did was ridiculous.

I also expressed to MP the sentiment that I would not be completely surprised if she called me upon receiving my response to say: "I'm sorry, but you can't bring a guest." Of course, in that case, I will just have to say: "well, I am not coming at all then. Have a nice life!"

It just breaks my heart, that I could be treated like this by someone who is "my friend."